for some temptations of pleasures do not risk long term peace

15 THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE UP TO BE HAPPY

15 THINGS YOU SHOULD GIVE UP TO BE HAPPY

1. Give up your need to always be right

2. Give up your need for control

3. Give up on blame

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk

5. Give up your limiting beliefs

6. Give up complaining

7. Give up the luxury of criticism

8. Give up your need to impress others

9. Give up your resistance to change

10. Give up labels

11. Give up on your fears

12. Give up your excuses

13. Give up the past

14. Give up attachment

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations

Source: “15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy,” from purposefairy.com, by Luminita D. Saviuc

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Remember: Managing even small disorder can brighten life and career

Know Your Triggers

Many people with bipolar disorder have less than predictable patterns of onset, says Prossin, but if you can identify depression or mania symptoms early, you might be able to get additional treatment or make lifestyle changes that prevent a manic episode.

Signs that warrant a call to your doctor include difficulty getting to sleep or staying asleep, speaking rapidly, racing thoughts, irritability, and intense boredom or frustration with the structured routine you have created. Remember: Managing bipolar disorder on a daily basis is both a life and career success strategy.

Could this be a form of clinical depression......but I feel good when talking or doing good work..

Q: When I'm at home I feel depressed a lot. I feel that I'm in a rut — going to work, trudging home, dinner, bed, repeat, same pressures from family. But when I travel I feel alive and happy. I even love seeing friends and relatives over a cup of tea,  I feel better attending meeting, visiting places, window shopping in malls, writing on issues, indulging in social activities and so on just because of the sense of doing something good as otherwise in family I am treated as failure and bundle of faults. Could this be a form of clinical depression or is it something else?
A:

Based on your description, it’s hard to say whether your symptoms and concerns are at a level that would warrant a diagnosis of major depressive disorder, although it is very clear that you're unhappy with your day-to-day life. You might benefit from talking with a mental health professional about how you're feeling.

The fact that you can feel better under some circumstances is a good sign. The term “loss of mood reactivity,” which refers to a state in which positive events — such as travel, in your case — no longer lift your spirits, is used to describe the most severe depressive episodes. Generally, people with clinical depression who have “preserved” mood reactivity (the ability to feel better under some circumstances) have a less severe illness and are the most likely to benefit from a range of depression treatments, including counseling and psychotherapy, as well as medications.

Learn more about the different types of depression, how depression is diagnosed, and how you can manage depression over the long term.


Healthy Self-Remedies for Depression

Other mood-boosting depression remedies you can use that will help you avoid risky behaviors include:

Getting regular exercise.
Participating in enjoyable hobbies.
Spending time with friends and loved ones who support you.
Setting realistic goals and working to achieve them.
Keeping to a consistent schedule for sleeping and eating.
Consuming a healthy, balanced diet.
Thinking positively and being patient with yourself.

Risky behaviors may seem like a tempting quick-fix for the difficult symptoms of depression, but they only cause additional problems. The best way to manage depression is to learn as much as you can about the condition and work closely with a mental health professional to find the right treatments for you.

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Q: Why do I feel so sad and guilty when I do something fun? I think about how there are so many people suffering in the world, and my husband is unsupportive when I feel this way. How can I handle this? I do get very sad and feel alone at times! 

— Sue, Illinois

A: 

There are remarkable differences among people with respect to attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors associated withhappiness, psychological well-being, and mental health, and these differences are in part related to our personality and upbringing. If this pattern is causing you to suffer in your day-to-day life, you might think about making an appointment with a therapist or counselor. Although any competent therapist may be able to help you, the form of therapy that most directly focuses on the relationship between feelings and particular attitudes and beliefs is called cognitive behavior therapy.

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cognitive behavior therapy.

Symptoms of Depression

Symptoms of Depression

When family and friends ask you what’s making you depressed, it’s okay to be honest and say you don’t know. If you are feeling depressed for a prolonged period of time, you should get evaluated by a mental health professional, especially if you experience any of these depression symptoms for more than two weeks:

• Having persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" feelings
• Feeling hopeless
• Feeling guilty, helpless, or worthless
• Being irritable
• Losing interest in activities that you normally like and enjoy doing
• Being tired and having little or no energy
• Having difficulty concentrating or making decisions
• Having difficulty sleeping or sleeping all the time
• Eating too much or not eating at all because you’ve lost your appetite
• Having thoughts of suicide
• Having physical pain such as headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that do not respond to treatment

Knowing the 24 Forms of Anger Can Help You Overcome Your Own

Knowing the 24 Forms of Anger Can Help You Overcome Your Own

By BRENDA SHOSHANNA

        In the process of divorce many are susceptible to anger. Unfortunately, when anger strikes it is difficult to make correct choices and see things in the most constructive ways. “Who would I be without my anger?” many say. They feel that without anger they would become weak, a doormat and out of control.

Actually, the opposite is true. When we are free of anger, when we are clear about what’s really going, we can make the best choices and plans for the future. In order to do this, it’s necessary to know that anger camouflages itself and appears in many different guises. Below is a list of the 24 forms of anger. This is a general list. Some individuals can locate other specific ways in which anger manifests in their lives. If so, write it down. Watch your behavior. Keep a record. You will be amazed to discover aspects of yourself you were not aware of.

The 24 basic forms of anger are: (Some of them will surprise you)

1. Direct Attack 
2. Hypocrisy 
3. Stealing 
4. Lying & Deception
5. Depression
6. Withdrawal
7. Passive Aggressive Behavior
8. Hopelessness
9. Suicide and Suicidal Thoughts
10. Burnout            
11. Self-Sabotage
12. Low Self Esteem
13. Compulsions
14. Obsessions
15. Revenge
16. Addictions
17. Psychosomatic Disorders
18. Catastrophic Expectations
19. Masochism
20. Sadism
21.  Martyrdom
22. Judgmental-ness
23. Blaming
24. Gossiping     

These 24 forms are not set in stone. They vary from individual to individual. Many of the forms are inter-related. It’s important to notice how anger works in your life. Take your anger temperature. Once awareness grows you can make other choices.

Contrary to popular expectation it is not at all difficult to release anger once you are aware of what is going on. As soon as you spot a form of anger you’re involved in, turn it around. In this way, you let it go. If you see you are blaming another stop. If you find a grudge is gripping you, think of all the good things that person has done for you. If you see yourself gossiping, find something good to say. If you notice yourself in the grip of depression, (anger turned against the self), find a way to be your own best friend.            

Not only does anger attack others, it turns back and attacks the self. Most forms of illness and self-destructive behavior arise from anger which has not been released. Especially during a difficult time, it is wonderful to become aware and let negativity go.